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FAQs

 

 

1. What do I need to do in order to be eligible to attend San Diego Bad Intentions Femdom Events?

To attend one of our play parties, you must complete our vetting process. This includes attending a monthly munch and an orientation session, both of which allow you to meet our hosts (Miss Melody Pond, Princess Nina, and Goddess Colette) and ensure that our community remains safe, respectful, and inclusive.

Classes and workshops are open to anyone 18+ and do not require vetting.

 

2. What should I wear?

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Play Parties:
Try to stay within the event theme, but ultimately wear what makes you feel confident and comfortable. Fetish wear, costumes, and formal attire are all great options. Be creative and express yourself!

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Munches:
Munches are casual, public gatherings, so street-appropriate attire is required. Avoid fetish gear or anything that might draw undue attention to the group in a public setting.

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Orientation Sessions:
Comfortable, casual attire is fine. Orientation sessions are conducted virtually or in a relaxed setting, so there’s no need for formal wear.

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Classes:
Wear clothes that allow for comfort and movement. Specific attire recommendations may be provided depending on the class topic.

 

3. What should I expect?

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At a Play Party:

  • A welcoming space to explore Femdom dynamics in a safe, respectful environment.

  • The opportunity to observe or participate in scenes, connect with others, or simply enjoy the atmosphere.

  • A brief 101 BDSM tutorial at the start of the event, covering venue rules, consent, and safety.

  • Access to Dungeon Monitors (DMs) to ensure play is safe and boundaries are respected.

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At a Munch:

  • A casual, public setting (like a restaurant, brewery, park or café) for socializing and getting to know others in the community.

  • The chance to meet our hosts and start the vetting process for play parties.

  • A friendly, judgment-free environment where questions and conversations about BDSM and Femdom are encouraged.

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At an Orientation:

  • A focused session (often virtual) that outlines our community guidelines, event expectations, and vetting process.

  • Time for attendees to ask questions about our events and philosophy.

  • A chance to meet and connect with our hosts directly.

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At a Class:

  • Hands-on learning or engaging demonstrations led by experienced educators.

  • The opportunity to ask questions and explore topics ranging from advanced BDSM techniques to emotional intelligence in kink.

  • A safe, interactive environment where consent and respect are paramount.

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4. Why is the address kept private?

Our events are held at private venues in the San Diego area. To ensure the safety and privacy of our attendees, the address is only shared with participants who have completed the vetting process and confirmed their attendance.

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5. Who can attend play parties?

Anyone 21+ who respects the Female-led theme of our events is welcome. Tickets must be purchased in advance. No tickets will be sold at the door.

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6. Who can attend classes?

Classes and workshops are open to anyone 18+ with an interest in learning more about BDSM, Femdom, and related topics. No vetting is required for classes.

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7. What is the photo/video/recording policy?

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Play Parties:
No personal photography or filming is allowed. If you’d like a photo taken, ask an event staff member to assist.

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Classes:
Recording is permitted only with the explicit consent of the instructor and anyone involved in a demo. Privacy and respect are always prioritized.

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8. I don’t identify as a female Dominant or a male submissive, but I still want to play. Can I attend?

Absolutely! All are welcome, provided they respect the Female-led dynamic of the event. Please note that all scenes will be led by female-identifying Dominants or switches.

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9. Will there be Dungeon Monitors (DMs) at play parties?

Yes. Dungeon Monitors are present to ensure safety and act on behalf of the event hosts. They are authorized to pause or stop scenes if unsafe practices occur. Guests harassing DMs or disregarding safety rules will be asked to leave.

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10. Why is vetting required for play parties?

Vetting ensures the safety, comfort, and trust of all attendees. By attending a munch or orientation, participants can meet the hosts, learn about our expectations, and demonstrate their commitment to respecting our community guidelines.

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11. What types of classes do you offer?

We offer a wide variety of classes, including:

  • Scene-building and advanced BDSM techniques.

  • Consent, negotiation, and emotional intelligence in kink.

  • Impact play, edge play, and mental health topics.

  • Dollification, feminization, and other niche interests.

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12. How do I start the vetting process for play parties?

Attend one of our monthly munches or class and an orientation session. These are casual opportunities to meet the hosts, learn about our events, and ask any questions you may have. Vetting is required before attending any play parties.

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Additional Notes:

  • Respect personal boundaries: Always ask for consent before initiating touch or conversation that might be personal.

  • Stay engaged: The more you participate in munches, orientations, and classes, the deeper your understanding of our community will become.

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